2016/05/03 大腳小腳親子共學在圳前仁愛公園~當媽的特權

今天與同團的媽媽討論到分享v.s.不分享
阿寶仔最近一直和我說：媽媽你用我的東西之前都要問過我。
因為她連我不小心坐到她的椅子她都要生氣。讓我有點受傷…
討論後才發現，我一直覺得我有一種『當媽的特權』的心態。
曾經我是她的天；現在她長大了，我覺察到要開始學習尊重她也是一個個體。
父母是弓，子女是箭 ，箭透過弓射往遠方；子女的身體來自父母，靈魂卻屬於自己~
愛她就要『放手』，因為她屬於她自己。

阿寶仔的沙漏玩沙工具很受歡迎~

一開始她不願意分享，所以我頗困擾的~

今天第一次給妹妹摸沙子~

紀伯倫『孩子』

你們的孩子並不是你們的孩子。
他們是生命對自身的渴求的兒女。
他們藉你們而來，卻不是因你們而來。
儘管他們在你們身邊，卻並不屬於你們。
你們可以把你們的愛給予他們，卻不能給予思想，因為他們有自己的思想。
你們可以建造房舍蔭庇他們的身體，但不是他們的心靈，
因為他們的心靈棲息於明日之屋，即使在夢中，你們也無緣造訪。
你們可努力模仿他們，卻不可企圖讓他們像你。
因為生命不會倒行，也不會滯留於往昔。你們是弓，你們的孩子是被射出的生命的箭矢。
那射者瞄準無限之旅上的目標，用力將你彎曲，以使他的箭迅捷遠飛。
讓你欣然在射者的手中彎曲吧；
因為他既愛飛馳的箭，也愛靜存於掌中的彎弓。

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Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit,
not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the Archer's hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrows that flies, so He loves also the bow that is stable.
-- Kahlil Gibran, "The Prophet"

唉~最後阿寶仔倒沙子，噗寶被用到了…